In her book, “small bites – mindfulness for everyday use”, Annabelle Zinser teaches us how we are going to let go:
“You can ask yourself, ‘can I truly open myself up to all the changes in this new situation?’ This can help you develop acceptance, equanimity, and curiosity. Once in an obituary I read a quote from the Sufi master Hazrat. It has accompanied me ever since: ‘When the roof over your head collapses, you can finally see the sky.’ This quote continues to help me let go and develop an unconditional acceptance toward what is and what will be. Practicing with the small things helped me to see that I am increasing my ability to rediscover the sky during the difficult times as well. ”
Annabelle suggests that:
“Breathing and walking meditation are also wonderful opportunities to practice letting go. You need to let go of your in-breath in order to fully experience your out-breath. And you need to let go of your out-breath in order to fully experience the next in-breath. you need to complete the step with the left leg in order to to step with the right leg.”
Before my breathing and walking meditation, I think about the things I need to let go just for that moment. Then I start my breathing and walking meditation. At the beginning, I experience the breath in & out, and the steps with the left leg and the right leg. Then, I “let all worries, problems, and plans drift by like clouds in a windy sky” when I breath in. I “gently give myself a hug and I am willing to let go” when I breath out. I start to see the sky as the clouds have been being drifted.
In her book, “Small Bites: Mindfulness for Everyday Use”, Annabelle Zinser wrote,
“How did you wake up this morning? And how did you handle those moments of awakening? Did you say, ‘How wonderful, it’s the beginning of a new day; I wonder what the day has in store for me. Can I embrace myself and all other beings who cross my path today with understanding, friendliness, and compassion’? Or did you say, ‘Oh no, yet another new day. When I start thinking about the upcoming day, it feels like way too much’?”
In addition to giving thanks to God for the morning, waking up and embracing each morning (and day) with wonder & compassion is the way of awakening.
理查神父（Richard Rohr)在他的書“踏上生命的第二旅程” (Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life)裏有一段關於天堂的描述，“如果你獨自上天堂，包裹在自己的價值。。。你去的就不是天堂；如果你對天堂的概念是排除其他人。。。那也不是天堂。 你排除的越多，你的存在就越地獄，越孤獨。 如果你知道你所愛的人不在那裏，或是在遭受永恆的折磨，怎麽會有人能享受這種‘完美的快樂’呢？ 那是不可能的。 記住我們基督徒的祈禱詞：‘於地，如在天上一樣！’於此刻，如在那時；於此地，如在彼方。 我們會獲得我們想要并且祈求的。。。。如果你接受某個懲罰性概念的神，認爲祂會懲罰或是永恆地折磨那些不愛祂的人，那麽你所擁有的，是個荒謬的神，而且在這宇宙中，大多數人比神更有愛心！ 神不排拒任何人和祂結合，但是祂必須允許我們自己將自己排除在外，以維護我們的自由。 我們為這種排拒賦予一個名詞，就是‘地獄’。。。沒有人會身處地獄之中，除非他/她選擇終極的孤獨和分離“。
In his book, “a life having and doing enough”, Wayne Muller points out and reminds us that: “There are few real, authentic emergencies that require our immediate, life-saving response. So why is this important? Because more and more people presume unlimited access to our lives, our homes, our time. Those who want something from us expect us to give it to them. They assume that if the have our possible contact information, we should respond…If our time, our privacy, our choice to create our own schedule is neither a right nor even a privilege, soon our own lives are none of our business but rather are the business of anyone who has access to us…”
Are you the one who send a message to your friends or colleagues and expect them to make response instantly? I have always people that I am not always beside my phone and I won’t able to answer the phone and check my message all the time. I do not make response immediately does not mean that you are less important. I do need a break or what I have been doing is equally important and I need to deal with it at first.
When I am reading “Just for today” (one of the textbooks for the Narcotics Anonymous group) this morning, I am reminded that “Though I may be feeling low, I don’t need to tear someone down to build myself up…The way to build our self-esteem is not to tear others down but to build them up through love and positive concern. To help us with this, we can ask ourselves if we are contributing to the problem or to the solution. Today, we can choose to build instead of destroy”.
Today, I choose to build. What/how about you? What/how about tomorrow?
In the past hour of waiting for someone coming to the scheduled meeting, I have learned both the difficulty and the benefit of enjoying the present moment. I kept looking around at the beginning, and eventually I told myself, “why bother, just enjoy the time, just be open to whatever it is coming”. Thank God for the time that I really enjoy the coffee and the time to read and reflect.