In his book “a life being having and doing enough”, Wayne Muller wisely points out the reality we have often denied and ignored:

“Living and loving well requires us to make difficult choices each day of our lives.  The heart-opening unconditional love we see requires our heart’s time and attention.  Love, friendship, children, kindness, good and fruitful work – all these things need time, accompanied by our full, unhurried, undistracted attention.  Because the sheer number of hours in a day is limited, we must choose where, when, and with who we will share whatever brief time and attention we have.”

This is the more effective way we are going to be with and to help others.  in this way, what we are to share is the best we can offer.