good reminder, do not give people unlimited access to your lives

In his book, “a life having and doing enough”, Wayne Muller points out and reminds us that: “There are few real, authentic emergencies that require our immediate, life-saving response.  So why is this important?  Because more and more people presume unlimited access to our lives, our homes, our time.  Those who want something from us expect us to give it to them.  They assume that if the have our possible contact information, we should respond…If our time, our privacy, our choice to create our own schedule is neither a right nor even a privilege, soon our own lives are none of our business but rather are the business of anyone who has access to us…”

Are you the one who send a message to your friends or colleagues and expect them to make response instantly?  I have always people that I am not always beside my phone and I won’t able to answer the phone and check my message all the time.  I do not make response immediately does not mean that you are less important.  I do need a break or what I have been doing is equally important and I need to deal with it at first.

Just for today, building instead of destroying

When I am reading “Just for today” (one of the textbooks for the Narcotics Anonymous group) this morning, I am reminded that “Though I may be feeling low, I don’t need to tear someone down to build myself up…The way to build our self-esteem is not to tear others down but to build them up through love and positive concern.  To help us with this, we can ask ourselves if we are contributing to the problem or to the solution.  Today, we can choose to build instead of destroy”.

Today, I choose to build.  What/how about you?  What/how about tomorrow?

the power of your love and the problems of this world

Debasish Mridha once said ” Let the power of your love change the world, but never let the problems of this world change the beauty of your love”.  This is a good reminder that the power of our love is greater than the problem of this world.  The problem of this world, hatred, violence, anti-intellectual, exclusiveness, bias, fear…need to be solved and healed by our love.  My friends, together, we have the power to change the world.  The question is if you believe and you are willing to exercise this power, LOVE.

the power of love and the love of power

Do you know the difference between “the power of love” and “the love of power”?  Do you know the consequence of these two?   William Ewart Gladstone once said, “When the power of love will replace the love of power, then will our world know the blessings of peace”.    Looking at the world today (March 2022), you may know why some parts of the world is not at peace now and how we can have peace.  My friends, choose “LOVE”, “PEACE” will come.

our difficult choices each day

In his book “a life being having and doing enough”, Wayne Muller wisely points out the reality we have often denied and ignored:

“Living and loving well requires us to make difficult choices each day of our lives.  The heart-opening unconditional love we see requires our heart’s time and attention.  Love, friendship, children, kindness, good and fruitful work – all these things need time, accompanied by our full, unhurried, undistracted attention.  Because the sheer number of hours in a day is limited, we must choose where, when, and with who we will share whatever brief time and attention we have.”

This is the more effective way we are going to be with and to help others.  in this way, what we are to share is the best we can offer.